BEHIND THE STORY IS A WOMAN WHO CHOSE TO TELL IT.
Welcome to the story behind The Day I Chose Myself.
I wrote The Day I Chose Myself because I know what it means to question yourself, lose your voice, and wonder whether you are strong enough to leave.
For a long time, I thought strength meant enduring.
I eventually learned that strength can also mean saying:
Enough.
My life matters.
I choose myself.
WHY I WROTE THIS BOOK
This book began with a story I carried for a long time.
I wrote it because I wanted to put words to the things that can be difficult to explain—the confusion, the fear, the guilt, the hope, the love, and the moments when you begin questioning your own reality.
I also wanted to speak to the woman who may be reading this and thinking:
“Is this really happening to me?”
“Am I overreacting?”
“Am I strong enough to leave?”
If you have ever asked yourself those questions, I want you to know that you deserve to take yourself seriously.
You deserve to be heard.
You deserve support.
And you deserve a life where you can feel safe being yourself.
MORE THAN A MEMOIR
The Day I Chose Myself is not simply a story about what happened.
It is a story about recognizing patterns.
It is a story about survival.
It is a story about finding your voice again.
And it is a story about choosing life.
My hope is that these pages help someone feel less alone—and perhaps give someone the courage to take one safe step forward.
FROM MY STORY TO STRENGTH IN VOICES
Writing my story made me think about what happens after someone finds the courage to leave.
Survivors need more than a moment of courage.
They need support, connection, understanding, resources, and spaces where they can be heard without judgment.
That is part of the vision behind Strength in Voices.
A developing initiative focused on creating compassionate and culturally respectful spaces where survivors—particularly Indigenous women—can connect, learn, share, and begin rebuilding.
The book tells my story.
Strength in Voices is about making space for more stories.
While every journey is unique, the underlying patterns of control and abuse repeat. I carried blame that was never mine to bear—absorbing anger, unpredictable nights, and the crushing fatigue of constantly feeling put on trial.
For Indigenous, Two-Spirit, and gender-diverse readers navigating their own battles, know this: your fear makes sense, your experience matters, and you are never alone.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
The author is a survivor, storyteller, advocate, and community-minded creator whose work is rooted in compassion, resilience, and the belief that every person deserves to be heard.
Through The Day I Chose Myself, she shares a deeply personal story of survival and courage while creating space for conversations about domestic violence, healing, and self-determination.
Her vision extends beyond the memoir through the developing Strength in Voices initiative.
Her message is simple:
Your story matters. Your voice matters. You are worth choosing.
FROM ONE STORY TO A SHARED VISION
My story does not end with the final page of this book.
It continues through the conversations we have, the stories we share, the support we offer one another and the spaces we create for healing.
That is the vision behind Strength in Voices.
Because when one woman finds her voice, she can help another woman believe that hers matters too.
READ THE STORY. FIND YOUR VOICE. CHOOSE YOURSELF.
"Choosing yourself is not an act of abandonment; it is the moment you remember you deserve to live."
The Day I Chose Myself