A Survivor’s Journey Through Love, Addiction, Abuse, and the Courage to Leave
She thought strength meant enduring almost anything.
Until she realized that surviving wasn't the same as living.
The Day I Chose Myself is a deeply personal survivor story about recognizing the patterns of abuse, losing yourself while trying to save someone else, and finding the courage to choose yourself.
Your story matters. Your safety matters. And choosing yourself is an act of courage
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Content Note: This memoir includes descriptions of intimate partner violence, emotional abuse, addiction, self-harm, and suicide threats. Please take care of yourself while reading. If this material feels overwhelming, pause, step away, and visit our Resources page for support.
The Story
SOMETIMES ABUSE DOESN'T BEGIN WITH A PUNCH.
It can begin with the little things.
A comment.
A boundary crossed.
An apology.
A promise.
A pattern you slowly begin to recognize.
This book is about what happens when you stop explaining away the warning signs—and start listening to yourself.
READER REVIEWS
"This book put into words what I couldn't explain to anyone — the confusion, the guilt, the slow realization that what I was living through had a name. It didn't just tell me I wasn't alone. It showed me what taking the next step could actually look like."
— Early reader review
THE STORY DOESN'T END WITH THE BOOK.
The Day I Chose Myself tells one survivor's story.
Strength in Voices is the vision for what comes next.
A future where survivors—particularly Indigenous women—can find compassionate, culturally respectful spaces to share, heal, learn, and rebuild.
Through peer support, cultural teachings, shared experiences, resources, and community, Strength in Voices aims to remind survivors that they are not alone.
BRING HER STORY HOME
An honest and empowering memoir for every woman who has ever questioned whether what she was experiencing “counted” as abuse—or wondered whether she was strong enough to leave.
Read the story. Find your voice. Choose yourself.
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